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Showing up as a Mess

Updated: Feb 17, 2021

I haven’t posted for a long while. I don’t think it’s about my perfectionist tendencies, more to do with a feeling of being out of control, of losing the plot.


I know just about all the theories from my years of reading spiritual books and following various gurus or teachers. Even those that come from authors writing about non-duality and welcoming in all that arises, whether ‘good’ or ‘bad’.


But the bottom line is that I am still a mess.


And I think that might be the point!


I have reached a stage where, even though I don’t like it, (because my go-to distraction has gone), I can’t pick up a book or read another article on anything that contains a hint of ‘How to…’ or ‘397 steps to….’   Or even writing that offers guidelines or advice or benefits of another’s experience. I seem to be suffering from whatever the equivalent of compassion fatigue is, perhaps reading-self-help-books-to-make-myself-feel-better-fatigue.


The seeking is still there, the yearning to be free of whatever I’m feeling ….


Yet I’m dismissing everything…..


Everything I thought I knew, everything anyone says or directs me to, everything I use to bypass what’s going on for me.


And especially words. From respected authors, from new writers, from my own mouth or pen.


And yet here I am, writing….


It is now time for me to be fully present to myself, not to any outside authority that says I need to be fully present to myself!


I need to go within. To see what’s there, to embrace it. Just as it is. However it is. However I am.


So, I have been doing some painting. It took some time to get started. I wanted to find a painter that I liked so that I could learn their style. I found artists whose work I like who use pastels, others who use very loose watercolour or who prefer mixed media. I looked at e-courses that I had bought and never ‘opened’. I took out a monthly subscription to those offering support in getting over artistic blocks.


But of course none of these worked for me because I need to find my own style!


And that only happens when I start putting paint to paper.


I have been interested for a long time in the process of creating rather than the product. I still love the look of some representational art, and secretly harbour the wish that I could produce it, but it is the actual act of making marks, choosing colours and mediums and playing intuitively, spontaneously, that really delights me. I am drawn to abstract expressionistic paintings, to the aliveness and energy of it.


And what I also love is that it somehow changes how I feel.  I can’t put words to it, I can’t explain ith


So I have started playing. Tentatively, self consciously. With embarrassment and often disappointment.


And I have posted some examples here ….


To show up.


As I am.


A mess.


In all my perfect glory!


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